For me, the issue started in elementary school. Crazy, right? Looking back we say stuff like "kids shouldn't have to worry about it." I agree, I wish I could hug little 4th grader Lydia and tell her it doesn't matter. Memories of elementary school for me largely consist of being bullied because I was a chunk (along with being a smarty and usually the only white person in my class which made me just... different?)
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| Shoes: Chinese Laundry; Shorts: DIY thrifted; Top: Urban Outfitters; Earrings: Charming Charlie; Purse: H&M |
I still don't see a size 9 as big, size 9 is not big, sizes are just a number, a woman's body is not based on a number. I'm smaller now because I went through a couple of hard things in the past year that left me feeling depressed, resulting in a loss of appetite, unhealthy weight loss. I've been trying to live a healthier vegetarian lifestyle and (usually) work out. I think I have uhhh, decent? Body image. I wish I had more muscles, I wish I looked better in a swimsuit, and I secretly wish to be smaller. However, I don't get down on myself too bad about it. It is true what people say, "confidence is sexy." I try to love all imperfections, as annoying as my acne can get, as bloated as I get, and however pale I get. I think to let another love you, you at first need to love yourself, including body image.
It is important to remember who you are and whose you are. You're beautiful no matter how small or how big or how tall or how short or how pale or how dark...
You are so very loved just how you are <3
love it, such a cute top!!! Great look :D
ReplyDeletexo Emma
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You should have no "body image" issues....you're perfectly lovely! And I adore your flair for clothes and how it makes you stand out. Marvelously interesting and colorful designs! I expect to see you sending ladies out on a cat-walk one day with your own designs. :) And being an electrical engineer, you can do your own lighting!!
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I love that you posted about this. Confidence is sexy and it shows. I agree with a lot of things that you said especially size as being just a number. You look fantastic btw and love your DIY shorts.
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What I've learned is that pretending to be confident eventually makes me more confident (does that make sense?)...because like you, I've had SO much trouble with clothes/body image growing up. I can relate SO much to you and I'm sure most of us reading this entry think "wow that was me."
ReplyDeleteApart from being a different race and uber nerdy (orchestra, advanced classes, etc), in middle school I only had...ONE pair of pants to wear to school every day. They weren't jeans either, they were navy slacks with a permanent crease down the middle.
High school meant more clothes ($5 clothes, but hey more than just one pair of slacks!) but I was in my experimental phase so grandma clothes one day and goth kid clothes the next. I think I was resigned to being the unattractive (FAT) nerd that likes to wear dressy clothes by then...plus being in Rubik's Cube Club (...yeah I know), science club, math honors society, orchestra, and hanging out with the comp sci kids didn't help...
...and my parents always chirped in how amazing my naturally thinner friends looked and my dad brought home a XXL sized shirt from china because he honestly thought that was my size. Not really helpful. Nowadays I work out 6-7 times a week and eat healthy, but like every other girl...I wouldn't mind losing a few pounds. Whatever, I like to have my cake and eat it too ;)
I love the top girl! what a lovely top! and the shorts so amazing, esp the back of the shorts! I was amazed, its so unique and cute <3 you are so pretty girl! I agree that size doesnt matter, in my case sometimes people treat me different bcs I'm petite, I wonder somehow if I were taller and have a body like you, but now I thank to God with what I have now :) and Im sorry that you've ever been bullied in elementary schoo :(
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awesome look for summer,,^^ love the top and the combination :)
ReplyDeletei agree with you, size is just a number, you kow what, my size is 4, i'm so tiny :( i wish i can be taller and have a body like you :)
but I always thank to God for what I'm now ^^
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ReplyDeleteHi Lydia! I love this post, I really do. Its great to hear a young woman speak about a subject that we skirt around from. It doesn't help that magazines, tv & movies tell us what we should look like & what is considered beautiful or acceptable. I agree, size doesn't matter. My whole life my weight has fluctuated, growing up I was skinny, but naturally skinny and people would accuse me of having anorexia. Jesus, the things grown-ups & kids say are just MEAN. When I hit puberty & gained some curves, people were then saying that I was getting chubby & fat. Uggh, annoying & just mean. Luckily I grew up with a strong role model, my mother, who taught me early on that beauty fades & size doesn't matter & that I had to love myself no matter what. Beauty is within and to her I was beautiful, always.
ReplyDeleteLydia you are beautiful & don't let anyone tell you otherwise. The 1st time I read your blog, I admired that you were not only beautiful, but intelligent & funny. Your beauty was shining from within, its refreshing to see that. Its so hard to find girls with confidence these days. I don't mean girls who have to shed their clothes or be close to naked to be confident.
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great post! and you look gorgeous x
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Gorgeous ensemble hun, you sure are working it! That bustier top is beautiful and fits you like a glove! Thanks again for stopping by my blog, hope to see you back again soon!
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Peace. Love. LOL!
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Thank you for writing this. I love that you can be honest and open about your struggle. Although most of us have dealt with the same thing, we keep it inside like it's something to be ashamed of.
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Hi Lydia, you know i totally agree with you here darling! We should embrace ourselves regardless of what or how our body look like! I too wish i looked better in a bikini... But I gave up on dieting cos i didnt wanna deprive myself anymore of things that i want to do and food that i want to eat. I thought i was crazy but knowing that im not alone makes me feel a lot better already. So cheers to confidence!!
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Btw i love your top!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you ! I was much bigger when I was younger and has had to deal with those "body image" questions, now I'm smaller and became a model and I see that some people act different with me now. But I just wanna tell them that they are stupid 'cuz I am the same girl, grr.
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And you are gorgeous in this high waisted short.
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